How To Overcome Perfectionism in Parenting

Hello! Hope you're all having a wonderful start to the week!

This weeks blog is all about perfectionism in parenting! There really are two sides to this and both are just as powerful and true as the other.

One side being the feeling that we as parents, need to be perfect, is there even such a thing as the perfect parent? I would say no, but then why do we tear ourselves down, when we do things wrong? If there is no such thing as the perfect parent?

The second side of this for me is striving to raise perfect children, and the weight that expectations can have, the impact they have on our children and as a result, the relationship we have with our children, for expecting perfection?

In a world that is changing all of the time, the pressure on parents is everywhere, heightened by areas such as social media, peer judgement and so much more.

I had the pleasure of chatting with Jehan who is a Parenting Coach and she supports parents in feeling empowered on their journey and guiding them on effective ways to raise resilient and confident children that have the tools to tackle whatever life brings their way and thrive as they grow.

In this conversation, we dug deep into how as parents we feel this expectation to do everything and do it well, and most importantly where this all stems from because parenting doesn’t come with a users manual! We discuss areas such as how our own childhoods impact this, the approaches our parents took when raising us, and society in the world today as we know it.

To add to this, we discussed children, the reasons we are parents in the first place! How we can begin to foster a positive relationship with them through the balance of conscious parenting whilst also showing up as an empowering leader and role model to them. How we can embrace and attune to their own unique essence as an individual whilst guiding them through love, joy, safety and maintaining standards that allow them to realise their own potential without the pressure that comes with goal setting.

How we can practice goal setting whilst understanding that mistakes, failures, and things not working out can be a good thing for them too, how there is learning and blessings in the things that go wrong. And how as parents we can practice this too, instead of defaulting to our reactive stress responses, we can practice patience, problem solving, working as a team and being resourceful.

Perfectionism in parenting is something we all experience and it is time to set ourselves free from the expectations we have bound ourselves with, and embrace a more compassionate, kind and balanced way of approaching our children and parenting in general, taking our power back as the parents and empowering our little ones at the same time.

So if you would love to know more, dive into our podcast episode on Spotify or Apple - or use the following link here.

Also, if you would love to connect with Jehan and experience more of her wonderful work then please connect with her here;

Instagram - @jehan.abhay

Facebook - The Empowered Parents Club

Jehan has also very kindly given us access to her free e-guide to support you on your parenting journey and guide you further. You can access that here!